Victim to Victor

Last night I watched the much anticipated “Breaking the Silence” on TLC.  It was brought to us by Darkness to Light and RAINN.  Before its airing haters of 19 Kids and Counting’s Duggar family spent a lot of time on every Duggar Facebook page, Twitter and Instagram accounts downgrading the family and saying they were boycotting TLC for allowing Jill Dillard and Jessa Seewald to appear in this documentary.  They thought it was a mockery of Erin Merryn’s work as well as Darkness to Light and RAINN.   I for one disagree with what I saw from the haters for months.  I thought it was excellent and educational.

Thank you to the brave man, women and little girl for showing us your journeys to recovery.  I want to share some points with those that may not have had a chance to see it yet.  The first thing is we need to teach our children safe touch.  No one other than a parent or guardian should ever touch a child in the bathing suit area.  Next let your children know they are safe to come to you with anything.  Do not be the parent that tells a child, “I do not believe that.”  Assure your kids that your love is unconditional and will never stop.  You need to be the safe place to land when something horrific has happened.  Remember small children might be unable to communicate what has happened.  Look for changes in behavior and decrease in grades at school as well as bed wetting.  If a  child is suddenly refusing to go some where he/she has enjoyed going in the past do not force the child.  Find out if there is a reason.

If you are reading this as a victim still feeling guilt over what happened to you remember it was not your fault.  Even if you “like it.”  That was the  body’s natural reaction and something perpetrators count on.  It is never to late to seek  help.  Hold this verse close to your heart, “BUT AS FOR YOU, YOU MEANT EVIL AGAINST ME, BUT GOD MEANT IT FOR GOOD…”(Genesis 50:20).   Yesterday’s test will be your testimony.  You to can go from “victim to victor” just like Kealin, the girl, in this documentary.

Click on the following link for a resource you can use as a concerned adult  http://www.d2l.org/site/c.4dICIJOkGcISE/ b.6143703/k.2746/The_5_Steps_to_Protecting_Our_Children.htm.    It is the 5 steps we can use to protect our children.  It also has ways you can donate to this cause.  If this post has sparked your interest and you want to be able to see this film, it’s available on iTunes, VOD, and TLC.com.  Download a viewer’s guide at www.D2L.org/bethevoice.  Watch with tissues.  God bless you all.

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6 thoughts on “Victim to Victor

  1. Thank you for this post. I watched the Documentary, “Breaking the Silence,” on this link at TLC’s website, http://www.tlc.com/tv-shows/tlc-presents/videos/breaking-the-silence/

    It was very informative and educational. The best thing about this documentary … it offers hope; not specifics, but indications and examples that recovery is possible. That’s good news for victims.

    You wrote, “Assure your kids that your love is unconditional and will never stop. You need to be the safe place to land when something horrific has happened.” Well said. A child is NEVER to blame for assaults or abuse. We need to be their heroes.

    You also wrote, “Remember small children might be unable to communicate what has happened.” Very well said. Children don’t have the knowledge base, emotional skills, or vocabulary that most adults have. We need to remember this. Children are NOT simply small adults. They are different from adults in many ways, and we need to protect and help them as they grow.

    Thank you, again.

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