It has been a while since I have written a blog. I took time off for family and then it seemed as if we all took turns fighting something. A family in our church had a sudden loss. I thought my next blog would be the poem that has been floating in my head since then. However, last week I was asked by a family member how I had managed to forgive my abuser. That thought and the answer to it has been rolling around in my brain since.
I have always told people if you want to forgive someone you have to begin praying for him/her. I know it is not easy but hey what Jesus did for us was not easy and His word tells us we must forgive to be forgiven.
This last week I realized there was another component that I had forgotten about. You see in my memory I had completely forgotten the first step I had to take. I had to realize first that God loves me and is in control of my life. However, we live in a fallen world and people make bad choices daily. Before I got to the point I could pray for someone else I had to pray for forgiveness of my sins and healing for myself.
I then had to cling to the verse you see posted on this blog and my social media accounts. I firmly believe that what Satan intended for evil God can and does use for good. It amazes me the times I have been told that words I have spoken or written have touched others lives. It is all God. He knows our pasts and our future. He directs our presents when we allow him to.
So today my readers if you are still struggling to forgive I ask you have you taken the steps necessary. The keys are in your hands but you must use them. Remember all have sinned and that includes you. The power you receive when you take the step of repentance is wonderful. Next concentrate on His word and his promises. Find the verse that speaks to your heart. Meditate on it and believe in it. Then pray for the salvation of your abuser and you will feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders. With these keys you can unlock a door that leads to peace and comfort. You may still have bad moments, days or even weeks but cling to his promises and that will get you through them.
Over the last few weeks I have felt led to do a series on forgiveness. So I started the series the other day. I was talking to someone, who I wanted to share the series with someone she had mentioned. It was then I found out that the friend I was talking to was a victim of rape herself. She said, “Maybe this is for me.” I told her I don’t know but remember God loves you. He can use this for His glory.
With that being said, today I am going to talk about false guilt and false shame. Those are some psychological terms that basically mean it was not your fault and you have no reason to be ashamed. If you have heard these terms before I pray today you let your head tell your heart that you were innocent. If you have never seen them before please heed them now. It does not matter how you dressed or if you went to his home. It further does not matter if it was someone you knew or a stranger. Nor does it matter if you were a child or an adult. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT.
People often call a lie a falsehood. We know who the father of lies is. So today I want you to know these false emotions you are feeling are lies straight from the devil himself to keep you from moving on and living the life God has in store for you.
For years I blamed myself for the molestation of the person, who was later abused by my abuser. I tormented myself with the thought that the person in my nightmare might have done something to other children. It was after the prayer I talked about the other day I truly started to heal.
Then I had to learn to forgive myself for something that was not my fault. Today my readers I want you to understand that forgiveness of others and especially yourself is the best gift you could ever receive.
I will not tell you it is easy. However, we serve a God, who covers us in His grace and through Him we can do what the world thinks is impossible. Today I want you to concentrate on these words. You are a child of God created with a purpose formed in your mother’s wombs to worship and serve the only living God. The fact that He allowed you to be abused does not mean you are not loved. It means instead that He loves you so much your pain is breaking His heart and He wants to heal it. By His stripes we are all healed. He was broken for the wounded and wounded for the broken. You can do all things through Christ and that includes getting over this trauma. Get his word and get on your knees. Fill yourself so full of him that the enemy can not whisper one lie in your ear. If you have not found a church yet I urge you find one. K LOVE radio station has a number you can call for prayer. Prayer Requests: (800) 525-LOVE (5683) Most important remember that God can use evil for good. Today’s test will be tomorrow’s testimony.